Hearing the truth does not actually hurt although it can feel a bit painful. It is essential for growth and sometimes I have to remind myself to just take it in.
Recently, during my yearly review with my board, I received two pieces of feedback that really triggered something in me. My natural inclination was to defend myself and explain why I thought the feedback was off. The interesting thing about truth is, the closer it hits home, the more defensive we become.
In this particular case, it took quite a bit of strength to bite my tongue and just listen. I spent a few days to think about each of the suggestions and found there was truth in each statement. By taking the time to really think about the feedback, I found some real growth opportunities.
I actually learned quite a bit about myself, my ability to communicate, how I have grown over the years and where the greatest areas for my own personal and professional improvement continue to be.
Even if the entirety of a given statement does not hold true to you, I can pretty much guarantee there are pieces of truth that will resonate, if you allow them to. You know which pieces are the most truthful by how strong you react to them.
When someone takes time to give you feedback, do your best to listen, digest and thank the “truth” giver. Then take time to find out how their statement resonates with you and how you can learn from it. In the end, appreciate the gift of truth and remember it hurts a lot more to ignore it, than to grow from it.
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